the need for love
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the need for love
من طرف MHDz الجمعة مايو 28, 2010 11:10 am
This is by far the most important type of need. Unfortunately, couples have a tendency overlook it. The need for love in its general meaning is vital for the continuation of the marital life. Therefore, couples should renew their love continuously. The following are some of the methods that nurture love between husbands and wives:
• Do not make comparisons between the engagement period and the marriage. It is just unfair. Both have their own conditions. Couples frequently worry about the absence in their marriage of the intense emotions they felt during engagement. They forget that these feelings mature into other types of love and express themselves in much more mature ways.
• Do not surrender to life's problems and burdens. Marital life can get complicated, especially when children enter the picture. Couples feel the real everyday pressures of caring for their children, their homes and their spouses. It is easy to become overwhelmed and forget to smile or laugh.
• Do not use other couples as the standard for yourselves. Husbands and wives should absolutely refrain from making any comparisons with other couples. For instance, the husband must not tell his wife so and so is better than you, nor could she tell him so and so is better than you. It offends him or her. And it is not always the case that the other couples situation is what it appears.
• Be forgiving of each other's shortcomings. Couples should look past minor failings and concentrate instead on the positive. The focus should be on good deeds and the encouragement of anything that promotes harmony, respect and love.
• Simplicity. Life is already complicated enough. Couples should work to simplify it for one another. The home should be a sanctuary from the stresses of life. The actions of the Prophet PBUH are a guide to us in this regard.
• Express your love. Couples should express their love to each other by all means possible. They should nurture this love, strengthen it and enjoy it. Unfortunately, some cultures do not promote the male's explicit expressions of love because they associate manhood with toughness. Our Prophet (PBUH) again was the most compassionate and loving husband. His gentleness with his wives is also a guide to our relationships. This expression may be needed more and more when the wife goes through difficult physical times, like pregnancy or delivery. A loving touch, a gentle word, a smile, or a comforting word are often all it takes to assure the other side of your love, support and appreciation
by amarin
• Do not make comparisons between the engagement period and the marriage. It is just unfair. Both have their own conditions. Couples frequently worry about the absence in their marriage of the intense emotions they felt during engagement. They forget that these feelings mature into other types of love and express themselves in much more mature ways.
• Do not surrender to life's problems and burdens. Marital life can get complicated, especially when children enter the picture. Couples feel the real everyday pressures of caring for their children, their homes and their spouses. It is easy to become overwhelmed and forget to smile or laugh.
• Do not use other couples as the standard for yourselves. Husbands and wives should absolutely refrain from making any comparisons with other couples. For instance, the husband must not tell his wife so and so is better than you, nor could she tell him so and so is better than you. It offends him or her. And it is not always the case that the other couples situation is what it appears.
• Be forgiving of each other's shortcomings. Couples should look past minor failings and concentrate instead on the positive. The focus should be on good deeds and the encouragement of anything that promotes harmony, respect and love.
• Simplicity. Life is already complicated enough. Couples should work to simplify it for one another. The home should be a sanctuary from the stresses of life. The actions of the Prophet PBUH are a guide to us in this regard.
• Express your love. Couples should express their love to each other by all means possible. They should nurture this love, strengthen it and enjoy it. Unfortunately, some cultures do not promote the male's explicit expressions of love because they associate manhood with toughness. Our Prophet (PBUH) again was the most compassionate and loving husband. His gentleness with his wives is also a guide to our relationships. This expression may be needed more and more when the wife goes through difficult physical times, like pregnancy or delivery. A loving touch, a gentle word, a smile, or a comforting word are often all it takes to assure the other side of your love, support and appreciation
by amarin
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من طرف قطر الندى السبت يونيو 05, 2010 8:59 pm
obviously, you' ve done well topic
i like it so much
there is always love between couples but its taste changes
from time to time
which means love before marrying is not the same after marriage
and isn't the same after getting kids
but the most important thing is to know how to keep this love
and how should we express it
i like it so much
there is always love between couples but its taste changes
from time to time
which means love before marrying is not the same after marriage
and isn't the same after getting kids
but the most important thing is to know how to keep this love
and how should we express it
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من طرف سيرين الإثنين يونيو 07, 2010 3:52 pm
شكرا اخي محمد اعجبني موضوعك كثيرا و الله يسعد كل المتزوجين و يهنيهم
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من طرف MHDz الإثنين يونيو 07, 2010 8:03 pm
شكرا اختى سيرين على التشجيع
بـــــــــــــــارك الله فيك
وجزاك خيرا
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al sid chkh youcef- مشرف
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al sid chkh youcef- مشرف
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من طرف Meriem At الإثنين يونيو 28, 2010 10:11 pm
thank's brother ............it's great topic
and I'm with you katar al nada in this £ love before marrying is not the same after marriage£
and I'm with you katar al nada in this £ love before marrying is not the same after marriage£
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من طرف MHDz الأحد يوليو 18, 2010 7:48 pm
thank u meriemat
for the nice reply
may allah rewards u
for the nice reply
may allah rewards u
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